Family Day


I grew up in a large fam­ily. I have three sis­ters and two broth­ers. My par­ents raised us all so there were many days when all eight of us were at the din­ner table talk­ing about the hap­pen­ings of the day. I con­sider us to be closely-knit; how­ever, in recent years I’ve noticed that we really don’t spend much time together. The major­ity of us live less than 20 min­utes away from each other, yet we may only see each other once a month. What’s more we don’t talk on the phone much at all. Nev­er­the­less, I still feel as though we are a very close to one another.

Today was chal­leng­ing day. Sun­days usu­ally are for me; but today was more-so than the aver­age. By the time I got home all I wanted to do was be with fam­ily. My wife had din­ner ready and my son was enjoy­ing his newly learned tech­nique: rolling over from his back to his stom­ach. All of a sud­den I had the urge to call all of my imme­di­ate fam­ily mem­bers. You’re prob­a­bly won­der­ing why this is blog wor­thy. Good ques­tion; I’m glad you asked.

Friday-past I spoke of not being able to enjoy the com­fort of a gloomy Fri­day after­noon because of my pas­sion and drive to always get up a work—even on a day that one should obvi­ously enjoy in bed with one’s sweet­heart. Today, my drive drove me into the ground. I’m phys­i­cally and emo­tion­ally drained—for many rea­sons that aren’t worth dis­cussing. But what is worth dis­cussing is the beauty of hav­ing loved-ones who love you sim­ply because you are you. You don’t have to do any­thing spe­cial to impress them. You don’t have to worry about them accept­ing you because they already do.

When I called each of my sib­lings they each had a com­fort­able & casual con­ver­sa­tion for me—as though we talked every­day. That’s the beauty of rela­tion­ships that are sus­tained sim­ply by the love between them. The fact that we rarely see each other, or the fact that we don’t talk every­day, didn’t—and doesn’t—affect our con­nec­tion. And so I’ve real­ized, yet again, how impor­tant it is to unplug from your drive every-now-and-then to sim­ply enjoy the com­pany of your family—no busi­ness, no agen­das, and no drive—just family.

I don’t know what your rela­tion­ship is with your fam­ily mem­bers. It could be that you are estranged. Maybe you have no liv­ing fam­ily.  Nev­er­the­less, you should strive to have at least one per­son in your life that wants noth­ing from you other than to love you. You need at least one per­son that isn’t con­cerned with how many times you called them—or if you called them at all. There has to be some­one who isn’t con­cerned with your accom­plish­ments or your failures—all they care about is you, your hap­pi­ness, and your well-being.

I’m lucky enough that the peo­ple in my life who fill this role are my fam­ily mem­bers. They had been there all along, and as long as they are liv­ing I know they will always be there for me. And some­where between try­ing to con­quer myself and take on the chal­lenges of the world, I have to be sure to recharge my life by tak­ing the time out for a good, old-fashioned fam­ily day.


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